Changes in your face
What you need to know about changes in your face
Eye surgery can change your appearance. Thanks to modern surgical techniques and reconstructive surgery, large scars are less common, even after major operations. However, if you do have scars, they can affect how you feel about yourself and how you think others might see you.
Your surgeon will do their best to make incisions along the natural folds of your face. Over time, many scars will fade and become much less noticeable. Even if you’re aware of them, others might not notice.
If the surgeon removes one of your eyes, it means you have to get used to having an artificial eye (ocular prosthesis or epithesis). Although it often goes unnoticed by others, you know your appearance has changed. Adjusting to this new look can be challenging.
Your appearance can play a big role in how you feel about yourself. Sudden physical changes can be hard to accept, and it’s natural to worry about how your friends, family, or partner might see you.
Going back to work, meeting new people, or attending job interviews may feel more challenging when you’re adjusting to a change in appearance. If you have children, you might also be concerned about how their friends will react and whether it will affect your kids.
These worries are completely normal. But remember—those who truly matter will still see you for who you are. Opening up to the people close to you can help you feel less isolated and more equipped to cope with these changes.
Speak with your surgeon
This is likely the most important step. Even if you don't want all the surgical details, having a general understanding of your condition and the treatment can help you cope better.
Depending on the procedure, your eyelids and face may be swollen afterward. This is temporary. Your eye may appear red or feel sensitive, but not necessarily painful. Your surgeon is there to answer questions and offer reassurance.
Talk to someone who’s been through it
Some patients find it helpful to talk to someone who’s had the same surgery. Your doctor might be able to connect you with someone, or refer you to a patient support group.
Seeing yourself in the mirror
Your first instinct after surgery might be to avoid mirrors. That’s okay. It’s often best to wait a few days until the swelling goes down. When you're ready, consider having someone with you for support.
Many people feel angry at first or wish they hadn’t gone through surgery. You might feel like you weren’t prepared. Give yourself time — healing happens both physically and emotionally. The care team is there to support you and can help connect you to counseling if you need it.
Talk to those close to you
Family and friends are often your best support — even if they don’t always know what to say. Simply sharing how you feel can help them better support you. If you don’t open up, they might worry and feel helpless.
If your self-image affects your intimacy or sex life, let your partner know. Open communication is key.
Tips to manage physical changes
Wearing sunglasses can help hide eye changes or scars. If you have skin grafts or visible scars, camouflage makeup may help. But don’t feel pressured to hide everything — experiment and choose what makes you feel confident and comfortable.
Finding help and support
It’s not always easy to ask for help, especially from strangers, but many people find support groups and organizations incredibly helpful. There are many resources available for those adjusting to changes in their vision or appearance.